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What this really means is all
of our strategies or patterns of behaviour are
functioning perfectly. If a person can't stay
sober or avoid compulsive gambling for example,
they simply don't currently have the tools to
do so. There is NO failure only feedback.
At this point you may be
saying, "hey I didn't plan on getting
addicted."
But
UNDERSTAND this, all behaviour is unconscious
and those unconscious patterns brought you
perfectly to where you are!
So
how could such self-destructive patterns as addictions
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The answer is of course is we
created the patterns by making the best decisions we
could with the tools and skills we had AT the time.
When we admit that where we are in the
present moment is the perfect result of our conscious
and unconscious decisions, beliefs, strategies, and
values, we have the power to change our lives and construct
the relationships, career, and physical health that
we have always dreamed about.
The second concept
and step toward re-claiming your personal power is to
understand “ you are in charge
of your mind and therefore
your results!”
This point is simple...
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If you are not
in charge of your thoughts, than someone else
is!
The places where we give away control of our
own minds are limitless and usually fit into three
main categories. The first is the simple "to
do" list. These are the things that we tell
ourselves we have to do.
Now in the case of the addict it
may be nothing more than finding the next fix
or drink. Either way we are just doing what we
are doing because our lives are running us. The
second is social programming. At this level we
react to the societal expectation of
how we should be.
The media floods us with
thousands of images a day telling us how we should
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The problem with this is it causes us to try to be
something we are not. When we cannot live up to those
standards we can feel guilt, shame, and depression all
of which deepen our addictions.
Ultimately when we surrender the need
to be anything other than a spiritual being living perfectly
as we are, we have given our power to someone other
than ourselves.
The last
area is that of habitual response.
These are the things we do without thought
and in the case of addictions without control.
Ask yourself, "Am I doing today something that
is truly fulfilling or am I simply doing it because
it is what I was doing yesterday or the day before that?"
Then to bring it all together we have The Santini
“Motivational Strategy Interviewing”
Motivational Interviewing is:
- Totally Client centred
- Non-directive
- Respectful of the client's strengths and
knowledge about what is best for themselves
- Empathetic
- Not interested in labels such as "addict"
or "alcoholic"
- Not interested in confrontation as a style
of interviewing
- Mindful of client choice and preference
- It's also different
from the notion that you have to hit rock bottom
to change!
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Successful self-changers cycle through a series
of six stages. Helping a person in one stage requires
an entirely different approach to helping someone
at another.
The stages can be
diagrammed as below
- In short we identify the stage the person is at...
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Summarising, the
effective responses to each stage are:
1) Precontemplation:
Precontemplators need information and education
to raise awareness and develop discrepancy between
where they are and where they want to be.
It is a a stage where
people do not identify that they have an issue
or problem, and are not thinking about
change & simply seek to permission to give
information. Others, or external agents may perceive
that there is a problem but it is not internalised
by the client.
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2) Contemplation: A
stage where someone begins to weigh up the pros and
cons of their behaviour, thinking about whether there
may be a problem or not, and whether change is either
necessary or desirable. Contemplators need strategies
that tip the balance in favour of change so that they
can move into the preparation stage. Following relapse
it enables reassessment.
3) Decision or Determination:
A stage where someone decides to do something
to change their behaviour. A point at which
there is a conscious decision to do something.
The person says they really want to change.
Here we help set goals, and provide tasks for
the person, to check out their intention to
act.
4) Action: The
process of actively doing something. We elicit
and alter their old strategy for doing the addiction
or 'using', and integrate the conflicting parts
to resolve the problem.
We look at d specific strategies
that will help them make changes and sustain
them.The person chooses a strategy for change
and pursues it, taking steps to put their decision
into action. People in the action stage do not
need a lot of education to raise awareness,
as they are already committed to making change.
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5) Maintenance: A stage
of actively working on and maintaining change strategies.
This is a stage of conscious effort and attention
to sustaining change strategies. Build a new lifestyle
by integrating change at the level of mission, values,
and time line; and teaching interpersonal skills,
state changing skills, health skills.
6) Lapse or Relapse:
A stage where the client either slips (lapses) back
from a strategy to change, or return to previous levels
and patterns of behaviour (relapse).
Chronic relapsers,
for example, can actually be harmed by the 12-step/disease
model view that once a slip has started, you are powerless
to stop. Research shows that the stonger one's belief
in this perspective, the longer and more damaging
the relapses are.
We Future pace the person through possible
future lapses to a life beyond "recovery"
( we call it 'DISCOVERY' to ensure that they can quickly
respond to ANY new challenges. Plus we are only a
telephone call away - ALL part of the service!
Relapse
prevention is vital in achieving long-term success.
Our unique powerful, personalised plan for each client
that focuses on reducing the urge to compulsive gamble,
or for say 'cravings' and the desire for substances
eliminates many of the physical, mental, and emotional
patterns that may lead to relapse.
So
coming up in the last section, the missing vital
secret to the question:
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ultimately how do we run our own brains…. and
create a world free of social programming, habitual
response, and addictions?
To discover
and read more on this MUST READ
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